I’ve been sitting on this information for a couple of hours, although I did text Dingy about it. I had hoped after telling her, I would be able to, I don’t know, remove myself from it, I guess, and get back to homework… but it’s not leaving me and I’m getting angrier and angrier by the minute.
A few hours ago, Joe came out of his bedroom. He looked upset, so I waited. I knew he’d eventually tell me what was bothering him. And he did. He had been on the phone with Mommy Dearest and she gave him some information about his brother. I’m sure she poured on the tears and quavery voice, geared to get Joe up in arms…
Maybe I should insert a little side note here. I’ve been getting a phone call, daily, from the Crescent Pines mental health facility asking if I was James’ guardian and that they needed to discuss his meds with me. Daily I would tell him that I had gone to court and had my custody of James rescinded, back in April, and that he is now in DFCS custody.
Back to Joe’s story… Mommy Dearest said that awful place where James is living, wasn’t paying attention to her baby and allowed him to climb twenty feet up a tree, with a rope or something – and he hung himself. Staff found him immediately and cut him down, called paramedics. James, according to Mommy Dearest, went into full cardiac arrest – the whole needle of adrenaline injected into the heart muscle type of arrest. They brought him back. James was then stabilized and sent to Crescent Pines. Which likely explains why they have been phoning me daily for the last three days.
Mommy Dearest went on to tell Joe that, according to James [and it is a known fact that boy lies continually, lives in a dream world] the staff at Crescent Pines abuses kids and steals their school supplies money. Mommy Dearest said they are under investigation [hmm, wouldn’t the news have mentioned something about this, as it would be a major story…?] She claims DFCS is doing a major investigation on all Crescent Pines staff, based mainly on James’ claims, and ‘some other kids.’ Upon several searches, there is absolutely no mention of the facility being under investigation or having any issues – the only things coming up on the searches are reviews – a mixture of good and bad – and several job openings.
Her claims of the staff being investigated are yet another way of her deflecting any and all responsibility for how truly fucked up each of her kids are, because of her [lack of] parenting! Ten children, and each one of them has some kind of issue – even my little Squishy; most have some type of anger-type issue, along with some of them having mental/behavioral issues. Occam’s Razor, what is the single thing all ten children have in common? Their mother. There are three different fathers involved, with the eight showing the worst behaviors/issues all having the same father. Mommy Dearest talks about the long history of mental health related diseases in his family; she also talks freely about her own mother’s mental health problems – but kind of skips over her own like they are nothing. Squishy and K each have different fathers separate from the remaining siblings, and are the closest to ‘normal’ out of the ten – but even they show some signs of problems.
When I got custody of James, Dec. 2014, I allowed him to have pretty much as much contact with Mommy Dearest as he wanted… by the end of January, beginning of February 2015, he was making comments about me ‘stabbing his mother in the back.’ He also was making comments that his mother had told him what a liar I was and that he should record me; by the end of February he punched a kid at school and got into some legal trouble… I had the police statement, as well as statements from several witnesses that James attacked this boy for no reason. He admitted it. Mommy Dearest talked to him and his story changed to the other boy being a bully – the other boy was an Honor Roll student, never in trouble in his entire 13 years on earth – and James now believed he was the victim. I got him an appointment with a counselor, but the school asked I take him for a psychological evaluation… the place kept him after his interview. He spent all of March in and out of different mental health facilities… he was cutting himself now, too. Small wonder, Mommy Dearest is a cutter as well. She only ‘stopped’ because S told her he would leave her if she continued that behavior. I tend to think she just got better at hiding where she cut and didn’t inform S when she did, anymore. By mid April, James was in another facility and making threats against me – of harming me. I got an emergency hearing with Juvenile Court on April 22 and had my custody rescinded, placing James back with DFCS.
James apparently was allowed weekly visits with Mommy Dearest at this point. Funny how all of this contact led to him almost dying some time within the last three days… his Facebook is filled with comments about him ‘going home.’ Mommy Dearest continues to fill him with false hopes – she will never get custody of any of these kids. She is toxic. Perhaps she thought she could convince S to try for custody… once upon a time I would have stated he is too smart to do something that stupid, after seeing what James put me through… but as he had been in legal trouble and lost custody of Squishy back in March of 2012, I highly doubt DFCS would consider placing James with him, either. Legal trouble that Mommy Dearest’s children brought about, mind you – and she spent four months in jail, over it. S just happened to have the finances and decent family to speak up for him, is why he didn’t rot in jail too.
No wonder I’ve been getting angrier and angrier; Joe’s information share brought a lot of history back to the surface. I remember how scared S was. How hard I fought for visits, and then custody, of Squishy. How I had to prove that I am a decent, responsible person that just happened to raise a child that got in trouble once in his [at the time] 35 years on earth… trouble after she came into his life. How I worried about his finances along with him, and whether he would be able to continue to work after all this crap hit the Internet. How I am the one that convinced him to give her another chance – I was so stupid! How I wish we would have simply gotten Squishy back, and left. Forget her and her kids….
I actually do feel for the kids. It’s not their fault they had such shitty role models for the majority of their lives.
I’m outtie….